People are selfish. Everybody is and no matter how you try to argue it, it is just the way it is. Obviously there are the givers, people who do things for other people with no personal "benefit". The thing is there is a personal benefit, they feel better about themselves. It feels good to help people. That is the best case scenario too, because then you go on youtube and see these videos of people trying to show off that they helped someone - almost as if they are seeking the recognition and approval of society.
I found myself being called out quite a bit this week for not being sympathetic enough, for being unreasonably selfish about situations. Now, I would like to think I am an altruistic person but the way view life is that I will do these things for people I care about if they show they are thankful or help me in return. I know that's a twisted thing - to expect a return for it, but if people are taking the things I do for them for granted, and expect me to shower them with good things then I stop.
The biggest problem I see within my friends and myself is that we live for the storytelling, which really isn't an issue - in moderation. We are approaching life with a method where we want to do all these great things but is it for us or is it to say we did it and show off pictures of it? It's a flawed method because everyone is trying to be the most interesting, but, they are sacrificing the actual interest of the experience by concerning themselves with just getting it done to add to another book of things accomplished. Storytelling is a beautiful thing, let's not take away it's beauty.
-Umar
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