Reader Request: Love

You have no idea how much time I wasted to find a picture of these toys.

Love is a topic that comes up in my posts very often but I have failed to write a post about my thoughts on it as a standalone subject. A friend recently messaged me and their request for one of my posts was the topic of Love - so here we are.

Love is something that people all acknowledge and identify to exist, but not always in the same form. Most people assume love is being discussed in regards to an intimate love shared only with those you label as your soul mate. Love comes in a variety of shapes and forms, one example is the way you love a pet; dogs are beloved by most but in more of a innocent and cute way.

Hobbies and interests are a form of love possessed by most people, and it is commonly seen on the social media. It is the feeling that you get when you are part of a team. It happens when you find something you can turn hours into second doing, this can be art, sports, reading, or really anything that inspires you. Inspirational Love.

Another way, and often the most underrated way is the friendly love you share with your friends and family. It is an emotional attachment that forces you to help them even when you know you shouldn't, just because you would do anything to keep them safe and out of trouble - the same feeling that presses you to buy them gifts or make big deals out of their birthdays, the feeling that makes you spam their facebook page with inside jokes that lead everyone else to think you are weird. And the beautiful part about this kind of love is that even with everyone else thinking you look silly you don't care. The people that care are the people who don't value you enough to deserve knowing about those inside jokes. Familial Love.

Now for the part on the love that tends to actually interest people: romantic love. It is a feeling that can put someone at the top of the world or ruin their life, and most times both. I have seen high schoolers more loyal and in love than adults - thought most times at ages that young it is just infatuation. If it is pure you will know. I hear people told it's not "real" love far too often and the people telling it are only the one's who have had bad experiences with love. I'm not entirely sure that I agree people can't be sure what love is just because they are young. If loves truly knows no boundaries then logic would dictate that age is no restriction. If a child can understand that they are happy, or sad, or angry then why would they not be able to grasp the concept of love? Love isn't just a word that creates and awkward or meaningful moment, it's a word that carries power - power that is frequently disregarded. It is the feeling that makes the world melt around you and fall into a hushed audience spectating the bittersweet moment you are living. It is a passion so powerful that your brain photocopies everything about it in a perfect frame by frame; only for you to look back and wonder about if each and any detail had been different. It will always be the end to the seemingly endless tunnels of thoughts residing in your brain, and no matter what you do to reach a different destination you will always end up at the same point. It is what will make you trade hours of hard times for a few seconds of time with them. It is the goosebumps, the butterflies, the lightheadedness. It is the first thing you think of each day when you wake up, and the last thing you think of before you fall asleep. It gives you someone to share everything with, the world is your playground. It is both a blessing and a curse simply because you will never be able to escape it. It is the purest and darkest of emotions. It is what will keep you restless at night and trapped within your mind the entire day. It is the vice-grip that clenches around your chest tighter every time you are reminded of it until you can't feel anything anymore. It is what sends you into the darkest depths of the mind searching for an escape, but you just become more lost deep within. Romantic Love.

I don't believe in love at first sight, but I do believe in instinct and hunch. I think people can know if they CAN love someone pretty early into knowing that person. This also relates to my belief that it is possible to love more than one person, it would be incredibly cruel for the universe to only provide one true candidate for your life partner.... but then again - the universe really sucks sometimes.

Also, there is a cheesy quote that totally applies; it goes something like: "Don't be sad because it's over, be thankful because it happened" -Justgirlythings or something cliche like that. It is true, if you dwell on it, it will only hurt more. It ended for a reason. A good friend of mine once compared love to a childrens toy, you know the one where you just put a block in the hole it is shaped like? He said "You can't force a square block through a triangle hole (assuming they are proportionally similar)".

Just remember, you lose every chance you don't take.

-Umar

P.S. This post was a bit challenging for me because I wasn't too sure what the request was asking for exactly, I hope this post will suffice. I love all of you guys.